Yup. Completely agreed.
Romantic relationships have a strong tendency to be very dysfunctional precisely because of this. It’s made worse by most girls not knowing how limited a guy’s emotional repertoire is required to be, and most guys not knowing how strongly the society is conditioning girls to mute their desires.
And for this, that you ask for, to be possible some day, we really must do better!
Current society is pushing all genders too much into stereotypes, and it is harmful to all of us, i am with you on this one. I am GenX, and i am keenly aware about what society wanted me to be - a man with a very limited amount of possible emotional expression. I am lucky that i escaped that rigid framework because of the people i met in my life.
The current patriarchy is harmful to all of us. Men are reduced to a few basic emotional responses, while women are muted alltogether.
These things can only improve through open and honest discourse between genders (which luckily is happening! Not everywhere and equally distributed, but it is occurring) to make all genders aware that the most important thing is being open about what they need and how to fulfill it. That is really the basis of any stable relationship.
Yup. Completely agreed.
Romantic relationships have a strong tendency to be very dysfunctional precisely because of this. It’s made worse by most girls not knowing how limited a guy’s emotional repertoire is required to be, and most guys not knowing how strongly the society is conditioning girls to mute their desires.
And for this, that you ask for, to be possible some day, we really must do better!
Current society is pushing all genders too much into stereotypes, and it is harmful to all of us, i am with you on this one. I am GenX, and i am keenly aware about what society wanted me to be - a man with a very limited amount of possible emotional expression. I am lucky that i escaped that rigid framework because of the people i met in my life.
The current patriarchy is harmful to all of us. Men are reduced to a few basic emotional responses, while women are muted alltogether.
These things can only improve through open and honest discourse between genders (which luckily is happening! Not everywhere and equally distributed, but it is occurring) to make all genders aware that the most important thing is being open about what they need and how to fulfill it. That is really the basis of any stable relationship.