My wife is ace/demi so I have to initiate it; otherwise, it’s rarer than Mewtoo. I’d enjoy being pursued sometime because it’d be a boost to my self image.
That’s a harsh situation if your self-worth is hinging a lot on being desired. But it is also something that can be overcome with communication and some basic agreements if both of you really want to pursue that relationship. I am pretty sure that if you told her that your self-images hinges on her desiring you, that she would occasionally go out of her way of expressing how much you mean to her.
My wife is ace/demi so I have to initiate it; otherwise, it’s rarer than Mewtoo. I’d enjoy being pursued sometime because it’d be a boost to my self image.
That’s a harsh situation if your self-worth is hinging a lot on being desired. But it is also something that can be overcome with communication and some basic agreements if both of you really want to pursue that relationship. I am pretty sure that if you told her that your self-images hinges on her desiring you, that she would occasionally go out of her way of expressing how much you mean to her.