• Iconoclast@feddit.uk
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    4 days ago

    Around 10 years ago I “took the vow” to never lie again. That’s a kind of automation in a sense that I’ve decided in advance how I’m going to behave. Sure has made things more simple, though not always the most comfortable action.

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        3 days ago

        Saying things like “Sorry, I don’t have time to talk right now” or “I can’t come because I have somewhere else I need to be then” and so on. Sparing myself from the discomfort of telling the truth or alternatively thinking I’m sparing people from feeling bad by not telling them what I actually think as if I was somehow a better judge of their capability to handle truth and discomfort.

        And I’m not referring to radical honesty - I’m talking about simply not saying things that are untrue.