You have the planner and the nucleus. The nucleus is the person that everyone wants to hang out with, usually an extrovert with no planning skills. The planner and the nucleus are natural allies because they meet eachother’s needs. So figure out who the nucleus of your group is, be good buds, and plan things out with them first so you know they can make it before you send out the invite.
Then when you send out the invite they’ll reply all to say they’re coming and everyone else will come. Some groups have multiple nuclei so that’s a thing too.
Planner nucleus followers arrangement might make you feel unloved as the planner… But it’s just normal human social structures. Even Nazis had the same setup with Hitler and Goebel, Trump and Miller. Any group you look at has this structure! Secretly without the planner nobody gets to hang out at all so they’re the real OG imo. A group with only nucleus-followers is a bunch of people who rarely meet and say “we should do this more often” and then don’t.
I got lucky, our extrovert also has planning skills… Mostly, but good enough that a few of the rest of us can supplement on the details that get missed
When i inv people to things they don’t come
You have the planner and the nucleus. The nucleus is the person that everyone wants to hang out with, usually an extrovert with no planning skills. The planner and the nucleus are natural allies because they meet eachother’s needs. So figure out who the nucleus of your group is, be good buds, and plan things out with them first so you know they can make it before you send out the invite.
Then when you send out the invite they’ll reply all to say they’re coming and everyone else will come. Some groups have multiple nuclei so that’s a thing too.
Planner nucleus followers arrangement might make you feel unloved as the planner… But it’s just normal human social structures. Even Nazis had the same setup with Hitler and Goebel, Trump and Miller. Any group you look at has this structure! Secretly without the planner nobody gets to hang out at all so they’re the real OG imo. A group with only nucleus-followers is a bunch of people who rarely meet and say “we should do this more often” and then don’t.
I got lucky, our extrovert also has planning skills… Mostly, but good enough that a few of the rest of us can supplement on the details that get missed