I mean it looks like you two are living by the fall asleep with the same energy playbook so good work! At least you’re using some good tag team logic. I love the collaboration.

That’s nonsense. Raising young kids is more work than most jobs, sure. But that’s not because it has equal work density. It’s an exhausting 20h/day 7d/week low-med effort task. A job is a 8-12h/day 5-6d/wk med-high energy task. Miss me with that 50/50 as soon as you come home crap. That’s a ridiculous goal. Not to mention you shouldn’t be wasting time making a mental accounting spreadsheet to figure out if your partner did enough work to deserve sex that day.

Ideally everyone should have put in the same effort into the day and both partners should have the same energy level going to bed. Some days you both fall asleep dead, knowing you’ll wake up in two hours with the baby crying. Some days you get to bed with a little extra energy and the baby is sleeping through the night and maybe you have to think of something to do with that extra energy.

It’s obvious you’ll have less sex with a tiny baby just from the exhaustion, but if you’re wasting energy resenting eachother because of low effort, unrealistic expectations, or withholding sex, then maybe y’all need to consider whether you need to work on your relationship or look for another one. Because some of what I’ve read in this thread on both sides sounds more exhausting than single parenting 50% of the time and working a full time job.

Help isn’t just used in the context of a person doing something and another person with a secondary contribution. It’s also the word used for two people working together on a common goal.

We’re helping eachother out.

You made a nice meal. Oh yes, but Steve and Joe were helping me cook. That doesn’t mean one was the cook, it means 3 people cooked to make a meal.

OP even says “when he doesn’t know how to help” implying all his chores are done and he still has energy so he gets advice on the next chore from his partner. Maybe it’s a chore his partner usually does, or maybe it’s a chore he didn’t notice needed to get done that she noticed. If she finishes her chores and has energy left she can ask for the same thing.

God you just want to see men as useless and women as heroes when we’re all just people in this world trying to make the best of things.

They may be fragile but they are also extremely strong compared to a person. Here is a Tesla bot falling and hitting a closed water bottle hard enough to send water spraying. No human would do that as an international action.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0MUaBCoLu8M

Maybe they’re not stronger in the absolute, but you never find a human just giving 100% power by accident, we also sense unintended contact, or unexpected material yield and adjust our force. And maybe that’s the problem here, robots constantly glitch and just give 100% force to whatever is around them.

The most terrifying thing about these robots is their insane power density. If you were walking around and saw that you wouldn’t feel at risk. It has the strength to tear its metal and plastic body to dust. We just saw it. No human could do that, yet these robots deceive us with their human like appearance.

The slightest twitch, error, our bug and they turn into human meat blenders killing anyone around them. Even worse is intentional harm by the owner… And the manufacturer will often have an override access letting them theoretically possess a robot army at will with only their good virtue stopping them. Elon Musk is about to have this…

The future is going to be a weird and dangerous place!

It’s sweet and warm and getting it is pretty hot too!

Better experience than cows milk every time! But not many times lol

This seems insane! How can that area not be confined? Help!

This is a total disaster, like 2 days ago… I guess we’re going right back to the first map.

https://brusselssignal.eu/2026/04/france-backpedals-and-cancels-low-emission-zones-for-cars/

I came here to say this.

The first chapter is strange in a meta way, where they take too seriously that this book is an oral history and talk about its formatting etc… I almost stopped reading lol

But it’s a great aspirational post apocalyptic rebuilding book and the rest of it is weird in a very good way. Highly recommend!

I mean that’s been mostly true in the last couple years… AI slop or neo fascism… Sometimes both :(

We don’t need to close the loophole. We need to make it illegal for ANYONE to digitally stalk us and create digital data troves on us. They should be restricted to a narrow data gathering of what we give them for the purpose we give them the data for.

I don’t want corporations collecting and selling data that I don’t trust the government with.

A world where they still do that but the government “isn’t allowed to buy it” isn’t much better than what we have. Worse, it could enshrine their right to gather it.

I stopped crying at 8 (because I was told to man up) and I’ve cried probably a handful of times since then. I’ve been working pretty hard on it and the first time I sobbed as an adult was so freeing. I haven’t gotten it back since, and I still get stuck in the stone face mode most of the time. I got pretty close watching “no other land” which was a devastating watch.

As a guy there is also a lot of shame and fear around crying. Especially around women. I’m scared of having my partner get the ick and not feel like I’m manly enough to be attractive and dominant anymore. I’d have an easier time crying around men because even if they don’t think I’m very manly, that’s not a big part of my social personality. At work of course it would be completely devastating…

I’m trying to make sure my kids all feel comfortable crying regardless of gender. Of course there is only so much you can do against social norms.

Doing something that looks like shit is the first step to doing something that looks sort of okay.

Things get better with experience and experience is just having a long list of failures to learn from.

My guy is seriously claiming people come to Coachella for “quiet enjoyment”

Those loud uncultured Arabs simply don’t understand that in North America everyone is quiet during outdoor concerts, pausing only for a respectful golf clap between songs!

Yeah, most of what the FBI does is entrapment. They use the dumbest excuses to get away with it.

Truly the easiest job in the world, you invent crimes then arrest other people for them!

The UK already has laws that cover all the crimes you described. We don’t need to add a label of “terrorist” which takes every crime and scales the sentence an order of magnitude. Especially when it’s added secretly and the jury doesn’t even know what they’re finding them guilty of. Especially when they’re not even allowed to describe the reason for their actions to the jury.

This is a sham court!

Not to mention they could have set up the trap for ANY of his personas and it would have worked the same. Creating fake crime just to put people in jail.

If indeed… We should always give the state the benefit of the doubt when they’re obviously being extremely racist right guys?

It’s insane that he pretended to be terrorists of Islamist, feminist, white supremacist, and Zionist origins, but the only one any government cared about in any way was the Islamist terrorists persona. It’s also insane that he was convicted of being an Islamist terrorist when it’s clear that he wasn’t an Islamist because they knew about all the personas.

It’s not a bunch of loudmouths, it’s enough loudmouths and enablers to enact discriminating legislation. Montreal is a wonderful city, I used to visit frequently and lived there for years, but it’s hard to call it tolerant when you’re banned from half the jobs for your religion. I can tell you even in professional work, in Montreal, the majority of my co-workers supported these types of laws such as the initial bill 21 and it’s a big part of why I left.

“This is sending a very clear message to minority communities and faith communities in Quebec, but also around the country: your rights don’t mean anything."

montrealgazette.com/news/provincial-news/provincial-politics/bill-9-opponents-vow-to-continue-fight-after-secularism-law-expanded/