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  • I think the point is that the income level that could afford a stay at home parent used to be way lower than it is today. My parents bought a house in the hood in the 90s for around $100k in their 20s, got by with 3 kids on a single blue collar salary of less than $40k in the 2000s (like ~$70k today), and are doing great financially today. The oldest of us with no kids struggled to buy any home on a double income in specialized skills with degrees. We grew up qualifying for state benefits and pell grants and somehow us kids who are technically “middle class” are doing so much more for less.


  • Try audiobooks or comic books/graphic novels. I do like reading but sometimes it takes me some push to get back into it. You need to read the book equivalent of a fun comedy movie not the book equivalent of Citizen Kane (I hated that movie btw).

    What I do is I’ll read a short fun book first to build the reading habit, then I’ll transition to the boring/dense book I actually want to get through.



  • searabbit@piefed.socialtome_irl@lemmy.worldme_irl
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    11 days ago

    Yeah but none can say who is pretending to be kind and who is authentically kind. This interpretation doesn’t leave room for “kind” people to ever get angry or have a moment of weakness where they’re unintentionally mean. That’s just a recipe for horrible mental health.


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    11 days ago

    I think it’s important to distinguish need-based financial aid from merit-based scholarships here, as well as exclude 3rd party scholarships. Need-based financial aid does exist, but only at top universities that don’t need the money and basically pay for everyone to go if their parents make less than $200k a year. Merit-based scholarships are exactly what you’re talking about and very very often go to upper-middle class students as an incentive to attend. I had a rich friend who didn’t want to apply to selective universities so they went to a random state university that offered them this type of scholarship, and I believe didn’t end up having to pay anything for college. At least that was the brag.

    That being said, I want to say I’m shocked and appalled JLo would be so out of touch to think this would land, but that’s pretty par for the course for her.



  • Both sides have a point. The great thing about open source projects is that any malicious code (which this was and why he’s getting threats) will get theoretically caught before too much damage is done. On the other hand, anyone deploying AI agents for commercial purposes should have security measures put in place to prevent exactly this threat scenario. It’s like the most obvious prompt injection attack; it’s obnoxious to pretend to be surprised by it at this point as if basic security measures don’t apply to you and your tools because it’s inconvenient.


  • Here’s an honest answer from someone with a chronic illness. In the US, we don’t have real health insurance, so it’s more like you’re paying into a racket for some discounts and peace of mind in case you have a sudden acute condition. If you’re lucky enough to be able to work, you will (hopefully) have an option between the cartels insurance providers. If you’re a betting man, you should pick the lowest premium plan with an HSA, which is essentially what you’re describing, plus you don’t get taxed on the money.

    But people will say, what if you get cancer the first year? You’re screwed anyway, because it’s not like the insurance just goes “oh I’m so sorry you got cancer, don’t you worry, we’ll cover all the costs.” No, of course not. They’ll fight you every step of the way, so at that point you are just better off going to another country and paying for treatment out of pocket.

    But wait, other countries don’t have the same new or experimental treatment options as we do. Well, insurance often doesn’t cover those anyway, so if you are pretty desperate and you truly need those, you either fight for coverage, and I hope you haven’t lost too much of your support system from the isolation of poor health because the stress of doing it alone may kill you regardless, or you pay out of pocket until you go broke.

    There is also sometimes the option of medicaid or going on disability. You may go on medicaid anyway because good luck keeping a job and managing doctors appointments (oh my specialist can’t see me for another 6 months? Yeah put me on the wait list for cancellations), medications, and fighting the aforementioned insurance denials. Medicaid at least is actual state sponsored insurance, but remember Cs get degrees and As get high pay. As don’t typically accept medicaid pay rates unless you live near a big research hospital and can get their attention. Regarding disability, you shouldn’t really consider it unless you’re hitting rock bottom because it takes years to get on it only to have your savings capped to an insulting level that keeps you perpetually impoverished.

    So you’re not really missing anything because it is one big racket.





  • searabbit@piefed.socialtome_irl@lemmy.worldMe_irl
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    I just did this. Turned the entire thing off so I have no youtube recommendations anymore, and then made sure I was subscribed to everyone I do enjoy watching (like 100+ channels). So now I just watch the same like 5 videos I actually wanted to watch that day, but without the garbage I wasn’t going to like anyway. I don’t think we realize how much the endless scrolling robs us of time and energy to enjoy the things we actually like.



  • It could be so many things, so hard to give advice. For me, a big part of it was sleep related, and I could only fix it with medication; if you have adhd it may be similar. The medical issues gave me the feeling of I’m painfully bored but my body refuses to do/enjoy anything, and I just want the sweet release of death deep sleep.

    On the other hand, I was also so used to delaying gratification for school/work that I literally didn’t know how to enjoy myself. I think finding the little things that bring you joy and incorporating it into your daily/ weekly/ monthly routine helps a lot. Something like: on Sundays I get to eat pizza or if I reach my short-term goal/milestone, I’ll take myself to the cool place I never get to go to. I started doing this after getting a dog. So literally train yourself to love life like a dog.