Fast good imo is food you can get in (or drive to), order and get out - fast-like. As opposed to sitting down, having your order taken and food prepared after order, and have a chill meal out.

Most fast food is junk food, though it’s gotten slightly better with bowls and sushi and stuff that is fast but not junk. I think you’re talking about junk food that is not fast food, but I’m not quite sure of my or the official definition of “junk food”, so I’m not gonna speak out of turn.

TL;DR: In my experience they do consider it, but their consideration is off base from completely wrong presumptions due to the depression.

I would like to know who all these “most people” are and what experience they speak from. In my experience as a former frequent flyer in the female psych ward, most suicidal people I’ve met do care a lot about other people, but their depression makes them convinced that killing themselves would have no or even positive impact on their loved ones in the long run.

Speaking from experience, it can honestly feel like suicide would be a kindness, like your pain is so big you’re certain it affects everyone around you and your mere existence (and your mental unhealth) is a burden. When that is your minds truth, taking yourself out would relieve others from your pain, and even though it’s frightening (and maybe the short period surrounding your death would be hard on them but not as hard as living with you), it’s the right thing to do for the sake of your loved ones.

Obviously it’s bullshit to a healthy mind, but depression is such a mind-altering disorder that you can’t distinct between reasonable and affected thoughts. I can barely grasp how it felt and what I believed to be true, now that I’m better.

And to answer your original question: most other the time when I didn’t attempt suicide it was because my plan of action would lead to a horrific mess for whoever found me/had to clean it up, or because there was a risk someone I knew would be the one to find me, or risk of someone witnessing/causing my death which would be traumatic for even a stranger.

Some places have fostering with intent to adopt which is way cheaper than surrogacy, but more emotionally fraught (both depending on the kids situation/state of mind, and the risk/chance that they are reunited with their own family before adoption goes through).

If you want actual, specific, resources you probably need to specify where you live.

It’s probably not easy or cheap, but my assumption is that any dude who wants to be a parent enough to do it solo have probably thought it through well, and it sounds like you’ve had some experience and will likely be an involved parent so I’m rooting for you.

Make sure you read to them every single night before bed (even when they’re old enough to read themselves), and eat dinner together every day with no screens allowed, and give lots of hugs and kisses and 'I love you’s even when they’ve been bad, and you’ll do great.

I saw a child hug and comfort another after they tripped and fell. Pretty cute. The kids are alright.

My neighbour got back from hospital and is up and about again. Health declining isn’t fun, but we’ll have several more weeks of summer to sit out and chat in the sun.

And O for “Oh no” or “Oops”?

That’s infuriating. I’m sorry. Hopefully y’all will have had time to fix your health care system by then.

That’s great! I either forget to pee or get extremely frustrated by the constant trips, no middle ground.

Tried and true (by at least two people)!

Yeah, I’m in a lifelong battle with my ego to accept I’m human and limited in many ways. Good luck!

What were the consequences after meeting hr?

I’m not being a dick, I just have no idea what that ideology is… so don’t know if I’m in the group being asked. Can you clarify?

That’s the most normal thing in the world.

We aren’t machines - most people can only focus deeply for at most a couple of hours at a time, and it takes a lot of energy to focuslike that. Just like you can’t run a whole marathon at sprinting-after-the-bus speeds, you won’t be able to work a whole day at the level of your peak performing hour. Best thing to do is plan your work accordingly.

The number one thing for me is taking breaks BEFORE I think I need it. Way more frequent breaks than you think.

Short breaks so you don’t lose your flow, but still take time to get some blood flow through your body up to your brain: Set an alarm every half hour or so for a mini break 30-60 sec (closing your eyes, stretching, breathing, standing and staring out a window). Every hour move away from the desk 2-5 min (refill your water and grab a fruit, or empty the dishwasher or quick walk up and down the stairs or around the building for some fresh air). Halfway between morning and lunch, and halfway between lunch and night take a longer break 15 or so minutes (with a cup of tea or coffee and reading or chatting with colleagues or a friend).

Absolutely no (constructive) work talk during breaks with colleagues. Better to sit in silence than ruin your break time.

Brisk walk (get the heart rate up) or quick nap during lunch.

Save some menial tasks for when you run out of steam, usually after lunch and often towards end of day. Replying to a few emails or checking off some small tasks - something simple just to get the ball rolling after lunch or to wind down the work day.

Make sure you eat and drink properly.

Avoid negative self-talk, because you’re doing really well with your human brain and biological need for rest and recuperating.

And ask for help even when you don’t need it, because sometimes just explaining your work means you find a solution that would have taken a lot longer to find in silence, and sometimes it just makes someone else feel good to be of assistance.

More vacation days (probably depending on your union, but at least where I work the older you are the more vacation days you get).

Can start looking forward to retirement maybe?

People don’t follow me on the street or interrupt my day to try to chat me up. Though soon they’ll start doing it to scam me instead, so staying sceptical.

A lot fewer people stubbornly mistake my friendliness for flirting.

I’m more aware of my limits, and people tend to respect it faster when I set boundaries.

Though I’m early in it, so there’s more to come for sure.

Move your body, and get out into nature.

If you have to trade daily, find a beautiful (or at least somwhere green, or by a body of water) spot within maybe 30 min walking or biking distance and only check your trades in that spot. Perhaps hanging out in nature, having a little swim or dippingyour feet in the water, or picking some local berries on the woods, or listening to birds or dogs in the park, and then getting your heart rate up again before coming home will wash away some of the negative effects.

If your strategy allows it (or you can pivot your strategy), only check your trades every week or month instead of day.

Righto, fixed it. Thanks!

Only one thing: Sun’s out = gun’s out!

(Meaning biceps of course. We have very well working gun laws in my country, and very hot summers nowadays)

You may enjoy the full 30 min movie: https://youtu.be/bS5P_LAqiVg

It’s a goldmine of insanity!

That’s the gold standard for hacking, by far. But this also deserves a mention for pushing the bounds of technology, way ahead of it’s time: https://youtu.be/fQGbXmkSArs

Sounds really frustrating.

Ironic that he didn’t know the definition of sarcasm while employing it so heavily…

[Not the original commenter]

Sarcasm is not a great way to communicate in general, and it’s especially not a good look in the workplace.

I get this is the only glimpse we have of the situation and perhaps your history has taught you that this is the only way to move forward with this person, so dont tahe this to hesrt if so… but from just this post here you are the one contributing most to the poor communication and planning.

Addition: well, I kinda missed the community you posted in. My bad! Feel free to ignore this unsolicited piece of advice.