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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Everyone is saying you’re doomed but I think it’s salvageable as long as you are very good at setting boundaries and keeping to them.

    Do not encourage his oversharing, do not offer too much advice as that will only draw you in. Do not allow anything that would overstep the line, this includes him saying things like “You’re his type”.

    If he says something like that again the simplest non-confrontational response is something humorous that clearly points out the line he’s trying to cross.

    Something like “Well that’s awkward…” Or “What a strange thing to say…” “Yeah that’s way over my pay grade…” Say it jokingly and laugh, so things stay friendly, but you have pointed out the line instead of your nervous laughter sounding like agreement.










  • Accurate. My husband works in the mining industry and it’s … Painfully common for highly intelligent engineers that speak 4 languages to be treated like shit because their employers hold the key to their citizenship. It’s fucked.

    They get 6 month contracts and are never told until the last minute if their contract will be extended and if it isn’t then they have very little time and even less savings to get a new job before they are breaking the rules of their visa and get deported.

    Most places don’t rent to them either, so they were often stuck in shitty apartments run by slum lords.