I’ve made several friends over the last 10 years (I’m in mid 40s for reference). Some are my kid’s friend’s parents, some are work colleagues - male and female friends. Generally bond over shared trauma (children and shit that that happens at work) and then keep up the conversation on other shared interests (gardening, history, geology, bread, wine etc.)
But it takes work and support to keep friendships going and many don’t want to put in the effort. It’s not like the friendships you had as a kid where you can now, 30 years later, not talk for the majority of the year and then shoot a message and be instantly transported back to being 15 again.










Sadly, you do know why. Some people are cunts.