Yeah sorry, I wasn’t trying to equate the two words, just the arguments to defend using them. I can agree that the words hold very different weights.
There’s an argument to be made, even though “fellate” might be something that is done by a wide variety of sexualities, it has history and that history is as a homophobic insult. Sure, words can be reclaimed by the gay community, but the metaphor of sucking dick as a subservient action is so fucking pervasive (especially in discussions about politics for some reason) and it points towards unexamined patterns of language that are very harmful. Add on the borderline ableism at the end and it comes across as bad faith at the start, so it’s no wonder a mod responds like this.








(iPhone) Depending on the framing of dumbing down, an alternative camera app could be suggested. I use Halide to get rid of all the photo processing Apple does by default (which ruins night photos imo).