ChexMax

Maybe just plain ol carpenter. Like part of “cool” is unaffected or aloof. A dude or chick who builds their own home and the furniture inside? That’s just cool. A lot of the stuff listed here actually takes a decent amount of nerdiness or at least passion. While the jobs are awesome, idk that they’re the coolest.

I know two people who had full term still born babies. They both absolutely refer to them as babies and as having given birth. I’m only 6 months pregnant and if I lost the pregnancy at this point I would say I lost my son. He’s very real and alive to me, he moves and touches me many times an hour, already keeps me up every night. He’s a real dude in there.

That said, I’ve had two miscarriages and consider those lost pregnancies, not lost children. I’ve seen people online say things like “mother of 4, 2 in heaven” though.

Having something die inside you can fuck you up forever.

It’s so tough. 45k isn’t enough to cover expenses where I live (I know because we’re doing it, and if we weren’t dual income it just wouldn’t work). It doesn’t matter that my husband gets amazing retirement matching and decent benefits, because without my (admittedly small) income we couldn’t pay rent and utilities. If you want to be independent here and have a yard, you need to make more. A few years ago here you couldn’t even find an apartment with that salary, but it’s calmed down a little.

Yeah, I feel like when I first came here every third post was about Linux and every third post was about star trek. A lot of the remaining third was beans. Now only every tenth post is Linux and trek.