Well, this is in the context of people choosing to accept donations as an open-source developer. Taking donations requires opt-in, I would assume someone like you just wouldn’t take them in the first place.

However, I’m sorry that they make you uncomfortable or even guilty, because that sounds to me like you think you don’t deserve them. Which to me, is sad, because the other person making the donation definitely thinks you deserved it.

“most” is the keyword here.

But they don’t produce output

I would argue that this is not even close to true.

As an open source developer myself, my contribution to open source is pretty much exactly proportional to how well I’m feeling. Getting a donation makes me feel appreciated, using the money makes me feel better, all leading to me being more motivated to spend time on some open-source.

Obviously, being able to only work on open-source would generate more output, but the psychological impact of feeling appreciated to output can’t be dismissed and is huge.

People always like to think of themselves that they aren’t judgy and totally inclusive and tolerant. But it’s a natural human behavior to judge others and make it known. Most people think of themselves and say they don’t judge, but in the background, subconsciously, still do it.

So your doubt is probably justified. You have to get the real answer from how your friends actually behave, not from what they think or say.

Oh, I know that. Doesn’t change my statement though, what I said is what’s happening; how to handle it, I didn’t really want to go into.

But yes, the solution is to not give a fuck, like you say. But that’s only the second best solution, the first one is for that not to be necessary in the first place.

I mean, if you simply want your code to be available somewhere so that you can access it from anywhere/have a backup, you can just not use any “service” at all. Just make a bare git repo on your server and expose it via ssh.

Only if you really need the collaboration features should you be using these kind of services, otherwise you just don’t really need them. (I would use Forgejo from Codeberg.)

Dancing with trusted people, yes. But in many/most places, how you dance is subject to social stigma, which is much much worse than any benefit of dancing.

And if you only know the stigma-attached dancing, then it poisons “healthy” dance for you, because humans think of the bad thing first.

Why are you going broke though? Why can the solution not be “do not let yourself go broke”?

Well, the country and even sub-jurisdiction (like city, depending on country) is very relevant though, as this problem you’re having is one where the best solutions are very local.

Most things you can do is get help from the community you live in, and without knowing the community, advice is too general and probably not very helpful.

You should look for local help and ask people there what to do.

But if you use this app, you would be using BT, so turn it on…

I mean I assume you don’t have much sex or a girlfriend or anything.

In that case, at least from what I know from myself or my friends, this desire to look is completely normal. I think you might follow that desire a little bit too much (as it is something you can control), but the base feeling you have is something most men experience.

Your nature is telling you to approach women and have sex with them. For some reason, you don’t, maybe because you’re scared, socially anxious, people have told you being sexual is terrible, whatever. This part of your nature is very strong, and as it seems the only thing left for you is looking, of course you’re going to want to do it.

If you actually approach women and have a healthy sex life, that desire probably goes down, but of course now you’ve also made it a kind of compulsive habit, so it might be hard to break.

It’s honestly quite ridiculous to me that you’re ashamed of looking at sexually attractive people. Despite what some radical feminists or whoever will tell you, just looking and being sexually attracted is nothing shameful. It’s more likely that this shame itself is causing the issue, since you’re sexual, yet that is for some reason shameful so you can’t satisfy it, causing you to have more of a sexual desire since you have so little of actual action.

Sexuality is our main drive, it is constant, and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you inquire about people’s boundaries and respect them.

I challenge you to name a country where military veterans are not, in the broadest sense, at least viewed positively by the general public.

The level of it is different, but I don’t know any country where the majority views their veterans unfavourably.

And like religion, it’s necessary for their minds because the truth would make them break.

Not really, they did give their lives. The propaganda part is what they gave it for.

Twitch does not show ads in certain countries. I set my VPN to Bulgaria if I want to watch twitch.

Luckily, all family members have the same setup I have.

How do you even see ads at all? Must’ve been years since I last saw an ad (well, except brand names written on athletes/events shirts/backgrounds I guess…)