30s male - Most days, sometimes multiple times. Lately it’s been a lot. Not sure what that’s about.

If it does not interfere with your life, then it’s not a problem.

Might be a hot take, but:

• Sex is completely normal and natural.
• Most of the sex addiction discourse is astroturfed by christian fundamentalists.
• Most of the sex addiction stories I’ve read so far is just people wishing their life back before they had those weird urges, that came at a time they’re way too immature for them mentally.
• Unless you’re some variant of asexual, you will have sexual needs. They’re hardwired into you. Please them as long as
  • the way of pleasing them won’t harm you,
  • it doesn’t violate someone’s consent.
• The “grindset” is toxic, people should work less than 40 hours/week by this point, not 100 hours. The problem isn’t too much time for sex but rather not enough time for it.

It’s a sin so never. /s

cis man here. I’d say everyone should either have sex or masturbate once a day. but the thought of multiple times a day feels exhausting. if you have the time and are happy with it though, don’t let peer pressure make you feel any bad. actually I’d push against my friends and say once a day confidently. maybe that’s what they’re missing in their lives. act like they’re the crazy ones. like why not?

When I was a teenager and early 20s, a few times a day, tbh. Holy shit, when I was a teenager, i was so fucking horny, like all the fucking time. then my twenties were the same, my thirties were very very different (next to no libido). these days? Almost never anymore. Just don’t have a libido anymore :/ I am a bit of an old codger though. So maybe that explains it?

I’m a 48yo guy but for what it’s worth, when I don’t masturbate it’s usually a sign of depression.
Once or twice a day sounds normal to me, like going to the toilets.

Satisfying sex will satiate me for much longer than a quick wank though.

I’d comment on my wife but I think her aphantasia and almost complete ignorance of porn makes her particularly uncommon, regarding masturbation.

personally, 3-4 times a day.

that’s mostly because the world is going to shit and I need that dopamine boost.

Guy in my 20s. I do it about 3-4 times a week sometimes less. Usually not 2 days in a row. I don’t think my gf does it at all sadly.

Currently with new partner and am not feeling the need hardly ever. It’s been maybe two weeks. FYI she is 30something and is the same. We were both ‘once a day occasionally twice’ before we met. I feel my penis needs a bit of a break sometimes heh.

I’m a man in my 30s and I do around 5x per week.

Have you considered that the friends might be insincere about their own frequency too? In many societies masturbation is considered shameful. Even when people admit they do it, they might not want you to think they do it “too much”.

20s male. Generally once per day but I find it’s easier and easier to forget and I sometimes go a week without thinking about it. I rarely if ever do 2. I’ve gotta cool down for 20 minutes between, which gives a lot of time to realise I should be doing something else.

1-2 daily sounds totally within normal range.

could be ADHD and a lack of dopamine

29 year old woman. A few times a week, on average, I’d say. Potentially multiple times in a day.

When I have a partner, I tend to do it way less though, because I find that the sex is way better if I refrain from masturbating. Orgasms from masturbation aren’t particularly satisfying for me unless I try to do a whole build up that I rarely have the time or energy for.

Worth mentioning that autism makes my general sensory experience pretty weird — I’m hypersensitive to most stimuli, and that also affects touch. This feeds into my above preferences in complex ways.

I also have a few physical disabilities that mean I’m less likely to be able to enjoy sexual pleasure as much unless I’m in the right mindset (i.e. chronic pain can distract from the physical pleasure).

It’s possible that you’re ahead of the curve when it comes to knowing what you like. I had a friend who was capable of reaching orgasm through masturbation, but it took so much effort that she rarely did it. Then she had a partner who helped her to figure out her own idiosyncratic preferences in terms of what she needed to reach orgasm, and that sparked a period where she “felt like a teenage boy” with how often she was masturbating. She was 32 at this point.

I have another friend who didn’t even orgasm until she was 31 due to only having dated guys who were stereotypical straight dudes, which had calibrated her bar of what to expect super low (not just in what she expected from partners, but in terms of what sexual pleasure could feel like in general).

Another friend didn’t masturbate at all until she was 28 (with the exception of some occasional pillow humping that she would feel tremendous shame about) due to religious trauma.

Unfortunately, the society we live in doesn’t really equip women well to be able to come to understand our bodies and communicate our sexual needs. A lot of my friends in their 30s (especially the women) have said that they’re loving their 30s way more than their 20s because of this kind of thing. 30 is still relatively young, so maybe (likely in addition to a naturally higher libido) you just have figured out what you like sooner than your friends have. Maybe some of them are yet to have an awakening of some sort, and the average rate of masturbation will be higher in a few years.

Enough to take the edge off, not so often it interfers with your life. The number will be different for every person and different at every stage of life for a person.