Thanks! Honestly, I spent about 10 minutes writing that previous comment because I wanted to avoid being unnecessarily aggravating.
I’m so anxious about communicating clearly that I’ve planned and workshopped giving suggestions myself. And I’ve found the best way is to put yourself on their side so that your advice feels like you’re both going in the same direction. As opposed to butting heads or stonewalling the person you want to help. And that means actually understanding what someone is trying to do (because, if you don’t, you just sound arrogant and misguided when giving advice about something they don’t want).
I didn’t do that there because the intent of the joke was likely what it appeared to be
Thanks! Honestly, I spent about 10 minutes writing that previous comment because I wanted to avoid being unnecessarily aggravating.
I’m so anxious about communicating clearly that I’ve planned and workshopped giving suggestions myself. And I’ve found the best way is to put yourself on their side so that your advice feels like you’re both going in the same direction. As opposed to butting heads or stonewalling the person you want to help. And that means actually understanding what someone is trying to do (because, if you don’t, you just sound arrogant and misguided when giving advice about something they don’t want).
I didn’t do that there because the intent of the joke was likely what it appeared to be