Nobody is asking for a free pass, but mental healthcare and just a general recognition of the lack of free will that we all suffer in this deterministic universe does require us to think in terms of consequences that might actually work to make the world a better place.
I’m other words, when has saying, “be better” ever persuaded anyone?
plus things like autism/adhd have been largely balked at as being “lazy”(because the child isnt doing what they are expected as an adult) and not as a symptoms that is now gaining more recognition too.
I’m other words, when has saying, “be better” ever persuaded anyone?
When the other person respects your opinion of them.
I’ve had a couple instances in my life where a friend has pulled me aside, explained how I’m being an asshole and told me to be better. Honestly, that has done more to unfuck the person I am than just about anything I can think of. Because I actually care what those close to me think, and don’t want to push them away with my character flaws. Same reason I go to therapy, my therapist just knows how to word it better.
That’s part of it. The other part is who would actually benefit from being told this? Only someone who already wants to self improve and is motivated not to disappoint you.
Nobody is asking for a free pass, but mental healthcare and just a general recognition of the lack of free will that we all suffer in this deterministic universe does require us to think in terms of consequences that might actually work to make the world a better place.
I’m other words, when has saying, “be better” ever persuaded anyone?
plus things like autism/adhd have been largely balked at as being “lazy”(because the child isnt doing what they are expected as an adult) and not as a symptoms that is now gaining more recognition too.
When the other person respects your opinion of them.
I’ve had a couple instances in my life where a friend has pulled me aside, explained how I’m being an asshole and told me to be better. Honestly, that has done more to unfuck the person I am than just about anything I can think of. Because I actually care what those close to me think, and don’t want to push them away with my character flaws. Same reason I go to therapy, my therapist just knows how to word it better.
For sure. That the answer. But that’s a select group of people for everyone. And we don’t all have people in our lives we feel obligated to impress.
At least don’t fuck over the people that actually stand beside you. Everyone else is fair game.
Buncha times
Be good. Stop being bad. Okay you can go…
You’re against using the phrase “be better” ? Because it’s overly reductive, lazy and lacks any real tangible call to action? Is that why?
That’s part of it. The other part is who would actually benefit from being told this? Only someone who already wants to self improve and is motivated not to disappoint you.
What other words are you
Doesn’t seem like good ones